Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Advice from the Aged

When we were in Dallas in July for the funeral of my mother-in-law, we had a few days of being surrounded by "elders"...older men and women in their late sixties, seventies and eighties. We don't have that opportunity very often...we seem to live in a younger community and most of our church congregation is middle-aged. As I watched the aged couples talk and laugh and reminisce, I thought, "Mike and I will be them before we know it." It really brought to reality how fast and fleeting this life goes by, and that these older families probably felt like they just were raising their own children.

As I looked down at my rounded belly, carrying the life of a sixth child, I felt so amazingly blessed. Blessed to be alive and well and able to still carry life in my womb and give birth to babies. I get another opportunity to nurse and cuddle a newborn. I am able to be healthy enough to raise an exuberant household of children...cooking, nurturing, training, creating, inspiring, teaching, leading, reading, motivating...this is the stuff that my days are made of.

This is the busy season of life and how rich and privileged I am!

Since that trip, I have felt so deeply that I am not to wish away these mothering days...looking for the next season of life. My call is to embrace the Here and Now...today is the Gift I have been given. May I be content and live this stage to the widest and fullest and brightest!

One of the older men ...a wise man of God who taught seminary for many years and now takes care of his wife in a retirement home while also pastoring the others who live there...visited with Mike and I at the reception after the funeral. Mike thought that this Doctor would admonish him to "go to the world", to "focus on ministry", to "be busy for the Lord". But instead, he looked tenderly yet firmly at Mike and told him, "Just bloom where you are planted" and then to me, he said, "Aimee, motherhood suits you. Keep doing what you are doing!"

Those were life-words to us. An affirmation to us as a couple to be all-here and to be faithful in this place where God has us spiritually, geographically, and seasonally. We felt inspired to be just like this man and his wife...to go to the end of our lives remaining faithful to minister wherever our feet are.

Wise advice. I think we'll take it.


Anonymous said...

Just what I also needed to hear today!

Thanks and take care! I think of you often!


Bonita said...

What wise advice you were given! I love that!

Sunday one of my mom's best friends passed away unexpectedly. It really brought home to me once again just how fleeting this life really is.

Yes, motherhood does suit you and one day you will be the one doling out advice. And how wise that advice will be because you listened to your elders now, in the busy years.

Happy Lappy said...

LOVE LOVE LOVE this post! thanks!

Melissa said...

What a blessing from that gentleman.

Nikki said...

I needed to read this today. Thank You.

kristinwithani said...

Sweet reminder for all of us. Thanks for sharing.

Susan said...

Oh, Aimee, this is beautiful! I am inspired, and I thank you for the encouragement. I love your spirit.

Fiona said...

I have just returned home from a funeral today for a 61 year old man, and this is the first thing I read. Thank you. A lovely post.
Something else I have learnt from my 81 year old mother in law is that life continues to be busy, especially if you become the carer in your marriage. Things just take longer when you are older. I need to be thankful that, although I am now busy being a mum, I am mostly well and able to deal with that. I need to choose wisely what I am busy doing, and keep choosing wisely as I age, so that my busyness is of worth, and not energy spent on useless things. A minor knee injury and your post are helping me to think on these things this week.
God is so good to place us in families, isn't he?

laurel said...

Such wise words. I love this (and you).