One of my biggest goals for 2011 came to me so simply and gently. Over the final months of 2010, it's as if the Lord nudged my heart with a sweet love and tenderness towards my husband. My heart has grown with desire to make it my aim to really love him well this year.
This man of mine has served me and our children tirelessly over the last 14 years...he gives and gives and keeps on giving. I want to be as tender with him as he is with me and am spending my time thinking of meaningful ways to love him within his love languages: quality time, words of affirmation, and touch.
We are getting up at 6am together each morning (started January 1st!) and we are loving that quiet time to talk, pray and get on the same page. It has been so wonderful because we are beginning our day unified and connected to each other instead of how I usually am with him when I am awakened by children: reactive and barky!
I am being intentional to tell him the ways I am seeing him grow...the character qualities that shine so brightly. I am looking for and noticing the things that he does well and appreciating him verbally for that. I can't believe how much it means to him!
And with touch, I am trying to be more available. I'll leave it at that :). I am also initiating scratching his back which I know he loves and giving him more hugs and kisses (this doesn't come naturally to me at all...touch is almost last on my love language list!)
I am also putting some ideals aside to really seek to bring him pleasure. I am cooking through the Pioneer Woman's cookbook and am enjoying fixing him "man meals" for a change instead of my meal preferences. I am trying to keep the pantry and house stocked with things I think he'll enjoy. I am watching TV shows that he wants to watch instead of demanding my way.
These are small things...nothing elaborate. Just little acts of intentional love and care. I want him to know that HE is my priority (above the children!) and offer him tenderness and unconditional love. I am so doggone selfish, and this is so.good.for.me! I am being so blessed by being a blessing to him and he claims that 2011 is going to be a really great year.
I can't wait!