Friday, August 13, 2010

The Messy Beautiful











I decided yesterday that my attitude in my home needed changing. Every time I walked into a room in my home and found a "mess" I felt irritated and frustrated. Stress would build. I would get snappy at my family and impatient and unhappy.

I realized that I wasn't choosing to find beauty and thankfulness in the messes.

To change my perspective and renew my mind, I decided to carry my camera around in my pocket to capture the messes. To really *see* beauty in the undone...and as an act of faith, choose thankfulness. To be grateful for my children, for authentic living, for a comfortable home, for daily bread, for grace in my imperfections, for mercy in weakness.

It actually became funny. I started hoping that I would stumble upon a mess so that I could snap a photo and rejoice. It's amazing that when we re-frame a situation--looking at it as good instead of bad--our whole attitude can change. My circumstances don't look any different: messes abound.

The difference is me.

24 comments:

♥ Tina, the quiet homemaker said...

What a great post...you are such a wise woman. xx

THE CHETNEY 3 said...

I SO needed to hear this today. I have realized lately how much I let a messy house, or a lack of order, or my loooong to-do list rule how I feel and act. And how much I let those things rob me of joy for me, and for my family. I will try and remember your wise words next time I'm feeling like this. Which is right now. :)

A quote that's on a plaque in my kitchen:

"A good mother has sticky floors, a filthy oven, and happy children."

I so often feel like your words mirror exactly those that are in my own heart!

Rachel at Stitched in Color said...

That last pic of your littlest one is a great example. Thanks for sharing, Aimee.

R said...

Awesome! I have a picture on my refrigerator of a 60's mom all dressed up leaning over the bathtub scrubbing. The quote says:

"A clean house is a sign of a wasted life."

I always need to be reminded. :)

Charity Singleton said...

You know, just having that camera in your pocket changed your perspective. Something so simple. Maybe I should carry a camera around some of my messes this weekend.

TaraChristiane said...

Yes! Balance is good. When I see small, undone spaces I am reminded that my home is a place where people LIVE life. I grew up in a home where we could never make a "mess" and always swore I would do better by my own family. I'm glad I kept that promise to myself.

Tonya said...

L-O-V-E it!!! The last several posts of yours I've read I would swear you've been inside my head hearing my thoughts that haven't yet made their way out yet! You are describing so much of where I am right now. Thanks for a fresh perspective! :)

Jennifer said...

It's all about perspective!
Thanks for the reminder~
Messes around our house...
are always in one room or another :)

Happy Lappy said...

Aimee,
This is so true. I often think of this. This sounds morbid. But, if you have ever lost anyone, you can remember those moments frozen in time of the way things were left before that person died. Those "messes" become the most precious things in the world, because it is a little bit of that person left in this world. So, I try to look at messes in that, except with thanksgiving that the person that made it is still with me.

Adriane said...

Great post and much needed words for me. Thank you for posting this. :)

flo said...

nodding my head repeatedly as i read. what a sweet post.

i read your posts on bloglines, but i come here anyway because of all the thoughtful comments... kindred spirits.

Jayme, The Coop Keeper said...

I just love your attitude. There is a scripture in the Bible, not sure where, something like 'where there are no oxen, the stall is clean'. I'd much rather have some life going on in my house - and with life is mess. So glad you changed your perspective!

Natalie said...

Oh Aimee, a beautiful post! Thank you. I struggle with seeing the beautiful in the messy. Clutter makes my skin crawl. But to remember that it is evidence of life and love and family! I think I'll pocket my camera and follow your lead.

Anonymous said...

THanks for this post. I've been feeling the same way and realized I need to be thankful for these messes and the little sweethearts who create them :) :)

K-Sue said...

Oh, this is good. Jayme, it's Proverbs 14, and that was a great reminder.

Mollie. said...

Now I just need to learn the balance between appreciating the why of the mess with the cleaning up of the mess. They get out of hand so quickly! Even still, this is such an encouraging post...thank you!

Claire said...

I've had this saying up in my kitchen forever and printed it out and have given it to my daughters:

"At the worst
a house unkept
cannot be so distressing
as a life unlived."
Rose Macaulay 1924

Valerie at Mommy's Muse said...

I love this post. I struggle with this as well and have been trying to find the beauty beyond the mess. Leaving the clutter makes time for more interesting projects. You have a beautiful blog.

Natalie said...

Aimee,
I've thought of this post many times since you posted it. Just wanted you to know that I linked to it today on my blog. It was too good not to share :)

Candace said...

I just came across your blog today through a link on Elizabeth Foss's sidebar...and wanted to say hi. I have been reading through your blog and enjoying it...so much of what you say resonates with me!! I especially love this post and am going to pray towards the attitude you are describing. I have been finging myself especially frustrated with the "mess" in our home lately...instead of being thankful for the little mess-makers. :) Thanks for the perspective remidner!!

Mary B said...

I found you through a link put up by Natalie at One Thing Spoken, Two Things Heard. What a great attitude. I posted on attitude recently myself. It really IS all in how we look at things. Thanks for sharing...

Kathi @ A Mother's Prayers said...

Yesterday, I posted on what is really important. And THIS is what is really important! Love it! I think I'll capture my messes tomorrow!

No Ordinary Me said...

I came by this from Kathi's Blog. I love the outlook I wanna share too.

Q said...

Beauty for ashes - Good Job! :)