Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Friendship Fridays


I told you that one of my goals for 2010 is to deepen my connections with other women by having them over to my home two Fridays a month for coffee and conversation. Well, it all began last Friday!

I started by sending out an email invitation entitled "Friendship Fridays" to other mothers in my small group and church. I invited them to come to my home the 2nd and 4th Fridays of each month from 9:30-11:30am and to bring their own mug for coffee, and I would provide muffins... and bring your kids too and whatever they need for a snack/drink/entertainment! (Remember, this is a women's time not a playgroup!)

For two hours we sat around and talked about life, school, kids...whatever topic came up. Nothing deep. Just time to be together and connect. Lovely, really.

And little by little I hope that our times together birth an intimacy and closeness and community that we all really need. For women really do need other women.

What do you do to connect with other women regularly?


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10 comments:

Laura Lyons said...

I agree that connecting with other women (regardless of marital status) can add wonderful dimensions of friendship and support to life. To connect with other women, I enjoy planning one-on-one lunch dates (at my home or a restaurant), leading book groups in my home, and teaching women-only Sunday School classes. I have friends who get together for crafting mornings.

Jenny said...

Hi there! I'm Jenny, and I've been reading your blog for a couple weeks now. I just wanted to introduce myself. :) I think the Friendship Fridays are a great idea, and I'm planning to start doing something similar. Connecting with other women is so important!

chrystelle said...

Hello Aimee,
I am so blessed by your idea, and your bravery in sending out those invitations and making a safe and homey place for women to come together! I wish I could knock on your door on Fridays, but I'm in California.
I've had a link to your blog on my blog http://sewthrifty.wordpress.com/
for a while now. I believe I found you through flickr. In any case I am grateful to the Lord for letting me come across your wonderful site that reflects your sweet spirit and your love for God, your beautiful family, and women who need some loving and learning!

Linda said...

It sounds lovely. I have been in the same small group Bible Study for years. We are all of a "certain age" with grown children and grandchildren. The friendships have deepened over the years as we share our joys and sorrows and pray for one another. I am sure that will happen with your little group as well. We women are really good at that.

laurel said...

I love your posts! What a great idea. I think it is great that you are being so INTENTIONAL. I practice regular hospitality with other women, but it is more spontaneous, and while I am happy that people feel comfortable dropping in whenever (I live right in town, so it is convenient for people who have a few extra minutes here or there to just stop in), I do want to take a more deliberate approach to connecting with women who I don't naturally gravitate to or see often...people who are new to town, in a different stage of life, etc.
Matt and I used to have a regular practice of having families in our church over for dinner every week on the same night. We went through the church directory, and invited two families a week, going straight down the list. We had an easy system for food...he grilled, I made a few sides and it became very easy to do it on a regular basis. We also had some interesting questions on cards on the table that we always discussed, which really was fun...things like "if you could be anyone else for a day, who would it be?" or "if you could live anywhere else, where would it be and why?". We have gotten out of the habit, but I would like to start again.

Pom Pom said...

I agree that bumping up against peoples' lives shows us so much about our Savior. I always like the quiet ones, the good listeners.

Jen said...

What a great idea! I have a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group that I love going to, but haven't connected with anyone outside of that. I moved here a year and a half ago, away from my mom and sister and church friends, and I really miss having that connection with other women. Right now there is no one in my new state that I feel I would call if I needed a listening ear or help of any kind, or anyone who could call me for help, for that matter! That's sad! So, I really need to find a way to make some new friends. Friendship Fridays might be a good way!

The Mangerchine's said...

I love this idea Aimee! Since we have a cross gender small group, the ladies from our small group get together once a month for coffee, snacks, to share personal info that we don't feel comfortable sharing with the guys there in small group, and to pray for each other's needs. That time is always such a blessing!!!! I also have one coffee date a week one on one with a female friend to maintain depth in our relationships. We really do need other women!!!!

Shannon

Prairie Chick said...

I am part of a women's committee at my church that heads up a monthly "Women in Touch" evening, where we come together around round tables, one of us shares a short word of testimony, we have discussion questions and are free to just "connect" with each other and enjoy a special treat and drink at our tables.

Our couples bible study meets twice a month and the off weeks are devoted to building up our relationships just between the women or the men. So one week is guys week and the other week is girls week. This means that we don't need to get sitters and we try to mix it up by sometimes going out on the town, and sometimes just meeting for coffee and intimate visiting and prayer times (accountability sessions if you will).

I also love my evening grocery shopping forays with a good friend (not always the same one). We have a 45 min drive into the city, hit starbucks, go and do our shopping and get some much needed bonding accomplished while we are running errands.

My life is such that I just don't have the time to devote to "coffeeing" during the day anymore, so I need to get creative. Works for me!

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