As I began feeling physically and emotionally back-to-normal this week, I have wanted to feel pretty and "together" as a wife and mother and woman again...which for me means I get back to wearing my very simple standard uniform. A simple skirt..either knit, cotton, or denim. A solid v-neck colorful cotton shirt. And always always a necklace...this one being my newest and happiest!
I have learned over the years that how I dress in our home affects my mood, my work ethic, and even the quality of interactions with my husband and children. When I wear a skirt and some jewelry, I feel very "professional" and confident...which spills over to my wanting to cook and create and organize for my family. I am more excited about working and doing things in my home when I am "dressed" in a flattering and womanly way.
I even tend towards speaking to my children more "motherly" when dressed in a skirt...kindly and gently as I picture a 1950's sitcom-mom speaking to her children. And somehow my feisty and flirty nature comes shining through with my husband (which he loves! :) when I have taken time to look cute or pretty or sparkly or fun.
And donning a cute little half-apron (always keep your eyes open at thrift stores for these!) while I clean makes the job all the more fun and I really do seem to get more done in less time.
Dressing nicely for the day at home communicates to my husband and children that I love my role here...that I delight in who I am as a homemaker and what I do. It says that I take my "job" seriously and want to do it well. It also gives my appearance a "softness" that my husband and children are drawn to...and for some reason my heart truly does seem softer when I feel womanly and feminine.
Ultimately though, I have come to realize that I must daily be clothed with Christ (Romans 13:14) as I walk about my home. Even though I believe that our outer appearance does have an effect on us, we must seek the beautiful clothing of a Jesus-like loving heart. I meditate on these words often:
Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues, put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Pretty women, may we shine and be clothed with true beauty and femininity inside and out as we go about our daily, simple lives.